People hate change. I hate it too, especially when I'm not expecting it. Whenever a magazine I read changes format, I flip out a little. (That's the least-embarrassing example I can think of in my life, and I'm sticking to it). You wouldn't know it from populist movements, but change is hard for everyone even when it's for the better. It requires you to actually think about all your behaviors you'd set on automatic.
Beyond protecting their privilege, this is why people love complaining so much about political correctness. They were used to a world where they could assume that everyone was straight and or white, and now they have to put new steps in their system before they're being polite. In that world, no one had a chance to point out that they're getting screwed. There's an impulse to react with a lot of anger at being asked to change, and that's where backlashes come from.
I, like everyone I've ever met, hate it when somebody tells me to "calm down." But sometimes I need to calm down. In calmer moments I've decided that if somebody tells me to calm down, I should consider that I am not calm, and need to be.
But sometimes people do upsetting things they shouldn't do. America's laws are unfair to minorities, and sometimes majorities. "Unfair" is an understatement. I'm reading The New Jim Crow, so that's what's on my mind at the moment, but I don't really want to make this post a list of injustices.
If you'll allow me to make a generalization, there are two types of populists: those trying to correct an injustice and those trying to sabotage progress made by the first group. The latter are backlashers, and they are loud right now. They want they're country back - you know, to make it great again. They don't want to change their pronouns or bother with social and professional circles that truly include nonwhite non-hetero people.
I was horrified when I realized that a lot of people truly value white supremacy and/or patriarchy. They don't want to call it that, but they are so used to the results that they don't notice what the root cause is. When you don't want people to understand the facts about sex, you don't want people (but mostly women, since they're the ones who get pregnant) to have a say in their sexual and reproductive lives.
So maybe the SJWs aren't just whining and making your life difficult. Take a moment to think about it later on tonight.