Thursday, February 28, 2008

Update #6: Surgery

Sara's primary care physician is amazing. We managed to schedule the surgery for Tuesday the 4th; presurgical consultation is on Monday the 3rd. We also managed to convince our balky insurance to step in to pay for the more expensive surgeon.

The bulk of the tumor is between the size of a tangerine and and orange (hailstones are measured by sports balls; tumors are apparently measured by fruit), and is taking up a large portion of Sara's right frontal lobe. As of right now, that entire part of her brain is essentially nonfunctional; once the edema lets up, some of the area under pressure will come back online, relieving (they think) most of the short-term memory loss and focal difficulties*. Which means posting on the blog again.

They're going to remove about a third of her skull, overlay a copy of Monday's MRI on her brain, and strip out everything that's tumor. The surgeon who's going to do this does this operation three times a week. Let me repeat that: Dr. Silbergeld walks into work, has a cup of coffee, removes a third of a person's skull, sews the wound back up, goes home, and goes to sleep.

In terms of the risk and recovery time, the surgical resident we were talking to seemed very optimistic. His response was: "oh, yeah, this isn't like abdominal surgery;" the underlying assumption being that "oh, yeah, this is just brain surgery."

-- ACS

* In case you're worried about there being a lot of permanent cognitive difficulties, go back through Sara's archives back to June. There's been probably been a large tumor (or something) in her brain since then.

Wednesday, February 27, 2008

Update #5: Money, Part II

Okay, I consider myself relatively technically competent, but I have somehow managed to be the only person in the 21st century not to have mastered HTML. Note the singularly inelegant placement of the donation button in the upper right hand corner. I hope it works.

Hopefully, Sara should return to posting soon, and you won't have to deal with me.

-- ACS

Update #4: Money

We're doing okay now -- Sara's co-workers have donated 90 days of leave -- but we might not be doing well after that, depending on whether Sara can go back to work. The doctors seem reasonably confident that she can.

The situation is only medically terrifying, not yet financially terrifying. Still, we're planning ahead. If anyone feels like chipping in for hotel costs, hospital copays, and whatever shit the insurance company will inevitably decide to pour on us, we'll be putting up a donation link

Update #3: Pre-Surgical Consultation

This is Andy, Sara's husband. Sara's asleep right now.

We're going in for a pre-surgical consultation at 12:15 today. We're not likely to find out much new, other than what a really impressive surgeon thinks.

We've been seeing a lot of friends recently. The night after the diagnosis, we had a couple of our closest friends over to drink wine; the day after that, we visited Sara's grandmother. And on this Monday, we had all of our oldest friends (and some family) over for crepes. I didn't cook, but as soon as I get the recipes nailed down, I'll put them up on the web.

The fact that we're seeing a surgeon, and the fact that the tumor isn't abutting Sara's optic nerve or motor strip, means that it may be operable without doing serious damage to the person I love. I hope so.

If you pray, pray. If not, keep us in your thoughts. More updates are coming.

UPDATE: And if you want to call, either of us would love to talk. I'm (208) 596-1862; Sara's (208) 596-1861.

Sunday, February 24, 2008


Anyone who would like to to contact me is welcome to! I'm currently visiting my grandparents in Oregon. I'd like to see anyone I can before getting surgery late next week.

After surgery, I wil proably hand the keys to my blog over to my husband Andy, who can be contacted at ophite(at)gmail(dot)com - inquries can be directed to him. His phone number is one digit higher than mine.

I really appreciate all the well-wishes!

Friday, February 22, 2008

Horrible news

I found out today that I have a huge tumor-looking thing in my brain. Thoughts and prayers are appreciated.

Tuesday, February 12, 2008

Hear Hear!

"Florist refuses to sell red roses on Valentine's Day."

Right! Romance abhors cliches.

Huh. You know what I think is manipulative?

Blaming a person's suicide on their partner. A partner blaming their partner is quite manipulative, of course..