I don't believe that one can simultaneously fight against sexism in one's public life while commoditizing women's bodies in one's private fantasies. None of us compartmentalize as well as we imagine; no man can, I believe, seamlessly transition from masturbating in front of his computer to images of "exploited teens" to seeing his female co-workers, students, bosses, friends, and lovers as full and complete human beings with needs and desires of their own.I'm sorry? You can't watch porn and then think of the women around you as people? Hugo's a very nice guy, but that sounds more like a problem with Hugo than it does with pornography. If people can tell the difference between Buffy the Vampire Slayer and real life, they should be able to tell the difference between pornography and real life. If they can't tell the difference between Buffy and real life, it's probably a good idea to keep Playboy away from them too. This just strikes me as an instance of blaming bad behavior - the dehumanizing of women - on something external. Can't we be big boys and reconcile sexual attraction with interpersonal relationships?
Thursday, March 09, 2006
Don't blame me, the teevee ate my brain
This statement caught my eye at Hugo Schwyzer's blog: